Loving Myself: I Kandu It!

Be encouraged that you are unique and special and beautiful! Embrace who you are!      Loving myself was a process. It took time and patience with myself. I had to learn to be kind to myself. I had to learn to speak good things over myself. Self worth comes from knowing that you are…

Love Like Christ: I Kandu It!

     Different seasons of my life warranted different definitions of what love was. There was the hope of finding a love that rivaled the romance played out in the movies. My hopeless romantic definition of love was eventually confronted by the physiological effects of love discussed in college psychology lectures. I allowed unhealthy relationships…

Keep Smiling: I Kandu It!

Consider the smile for a staged photograph versus capturing authentic joy in a candid.      A demonstration of genuine faith is to keep smiling in the midst of adversity and anguish. The key is to build up the confidence that everything will be alright. Smiling then serves as an outward expression of the hope…

Being Consistent: I Kandu It!

     Too many times I talked a good game, only to let excuses prevail and keep me from following through on what I said I was going to do. It sounded incredible at first. I would even develop an action plan. Time would pass without any additional effort, so my enthusiasm would wither and…

Surrender: I Kandu It!

To surrender was a last resort. It was something you did when your back was against the wall. You’ve ran out of options, and you had ultimately been defeated. Sounds like a moment of weakness, doesn’t it? Consider the dictionary.com definition of the word, surrender: Doesn’t exactly shed a positive light on what it means…

Being Molded: I Kandu It!

     It is captivating to watch a potter throw clay on a wheel. A potter can patiently and skillfully transform a simple ball of clay into remarkably any vessel orchestrated by his or her imagination. The work of a potter is purposeful and beautiful.      Think of the time invested into the process…

Being Intentional: I Kandu It!

     Motive can serve as an excellent indicator for determining the successful execution of a task. When I reflect on the countless times I left a task incomplete, I can chalk it up to a simple truth: my heart just was not in it. Often times, there were excuses that accompanied my lack of…

Focusing on Me: I Kandu It!

     There came a time when I had to assess my situation, recognize my role in how I got there and develop a plan of action of how I would progress forward aiming for my best. I had to perform a self evaluation.      The tricky part was being honest with myself about…

Redefining Trust: I Kandu It!

     It is true that in order to trust, you must open up. This may take some time. Your heart may be guarded, usually due to brokenness associated with previous heartache. Know that you’re not alone. Trust me when I say, I’ve been there. I’ve been there quite a few times. Truthfully, I had…

Blaming Myself: I Kandu It!

     Be careful when you blame others for your life circumstances. You run the risk of blocking your own progression, because you’re not learning the lesson that the circumstance was intended to teach. It is understandable that people influence your life, but there is something liberating about taking responsibility of yourself, your actions and…

Higher Standards: I Kandu It!

Life shifted once I decided to raise the bar in three, specific aspects. First, I had to address my faith, then myself, so that I could finally evaluate the individuals I kept close to me.       There was a period of my life when I stopped praying. It was as if I didn’t need…

Triumphant Over Debt: I Kandu It!

     Discipline is taught. Whether discipline is taught through modeling appropriate behaviors or inappropriate behaviors, it must first be introduced, then reinforced, so it can be learned. To say that I am disciplined with my spending habits implies that I learned appropriate ways to spend my money and adopted those good spending habits into…